“Happily ever after. Isn’t that what everyone is apparently yearning for? Many people live their whole lives searching for the perfect one – the one who can give them a lifetime of happiness, contentment and satisfaction. When they indeed find someone, they want to be awakened from the nightmare, hoping that everything is just a dream. That is when people realized that there is no such thing as a fairytale ending kind of love.

 

Love is not forever. At a particular moment in time, perhaps, there really exists something called true love. It is when two people are real to each other. But this is just temporal. Love requires a tremendous amount of energy to sustain. It requires two individuals accepting each other’s differences. It requires a balance of power in a relationship.

 

Unfortunately, human beings have themselves to blame for the lack of existence of a long lasting love. Human beings are selfish. Perhaps, at the beginning, each will feel that the sacrifices they made for each other are justified for the sake of their love because it is something novel to them. Subsequently, the love will be taken for granted and ultimately, each will feel that each is more worthy of being the one to be sacrificed for. That is when the balance of power starts to see-saw and the stability of the relationship starts to go haywire. Some people broke up and moved on with their lives while some people insist on being in the unhappy relationship due to the sunk cost which had been invested into the relationship. Sad to say, this is the moment when the magic of true love starts to diminish and the supposedly love between two people becomes a burden.”

 

The article above quite rightfully captured the sentiment of most people about ‘what is love’, their experiences about love, and being in love.

 

Is that how the ‘mother of all natures’ defined Love for all the living things on earth?

 

If love has this ‘burden’ effect, could this be possibly created by our ‘mother nature’? Is this the perception exclusively for us, the human-being?

 

I have this belief that all things created by Nature is out of Loves and Cares, and to ensure sustainment and existence. But why human-being is the only living ‘creature’ that has this ‘suffering’ effect? We are suffering because we are ‘selfish’ like the article pointed out? Or is it because we have the wrong idea of Love?

 

          Let’s observe how other species do what we human do and we define it as ‘out of love’.

 

         Salmon fish lives their entire life focus on growing, eating, playing and swimmng in the wild ocean. But they will all swim up the hilly stream despite all the challenges, difficulties, and sufferings just to lay eggs and die immediately after that. Hence giving birth to ensure susession in their own spieces is it out of love in this instance for Salmon?

 

          We all know that we just need two hamsters in the cage, and we can have a dozen after 2 years. When the baby hamster is born, the parent will care for them, feed them, carry them to safety, but if they feel that their baby is dying, they will eat them alive. When the baby hamsters grow up, the female hamsters will be made pregnant by those males around them, and so the cycle goes on and on, until one day we realised that we have a dozen of them out of the initial two, how could this happen? Out of love? Or should we call them ‘animal’?

 

          There are many of these animal creatures’ examples easily available in the National Geograhpy channel for us to see, and perhaps we can learn and reflect upon it. Of course many of us will argue with all our might that we are different, because we are the mighty human-being. Is it true? Are we that mighty as we thought we are?

 

          We have more casualties in the Tsunami than the fishes and other species. We have more casualties in the Cyclone Nargis and earthquake than any other species. Why the other spices were running away and we were not? Are we being arrogant, thinking that we know everything better than others? If we have been living together interdependently, and with close relations and respects with the law of nature, which we’re supposingly have to, could we have fewer casualties in all these disasters?

 

          I believe in ‘balance of power’ amongst a couple, a family, nations, and amongst all living things on earth. Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) derives their principles more than 5000 years ago on this interdependancy theory. They believe that there is a ‘cure’ in the nature for every ‘natural’ desease on earth. And their Five elements (Fire, Earth, Metal, Water and Wood), and the Yin-Yang, are the perfect example of what balance is all about. There is a nurturing function and a controlling function in the Five elements theory in TCM. For example, Fire (the Heart) is nourishing the Earth (the Spleen), and it controls the Metal (the Lung), but Fire (the Heart) is also being nourished by Wood (the Liver) and is being controlled by Water (the Kidney). Hence, the essense and the secret lie in the art of balancing.

 

          The Nature also taught us that the art of balancing is not by volume, but by mass. Hence it is not always 50-50 in size. Perhaps by balancing in the context of strength and its ‘founded’ purpose is more sustainable.

 

          Now lets us examine what human-being has contributed to this balance of power on earth – absolutely nothing. There were some efforts recently, in the last few decades, but the progress is slow as compared to what we have done to cause it to go out of balance. For example, we eat everything on earth, but are we generating food for other living things? We destroy all the habitats in the nature to build shelters for ourselves; do we consider others’ need to live too? The disasters which we have been experiencing now, is it a form of balancing act by the Nature?

 

          The Law of Nature in balancing is a cycle; hence it’s connected and it’s interlinked. That is to say Love and hate are connected in circle. If you love a person to the extreme, the effect of hatre will appear. The best balance is right in the ‘neutral’ zone. If we are in the ‘neutral’ zone, the prefect balance position, there is no love or hate. Hence the perpectual happiness is then possible.

 

          Once we’ve achieved the perfect balance position, all the effects mentioned in the article above, such as, ‘Love is not forever’, ‘Love requires a tremendous amount of energy to sustain’, ‘Human beings are selfish’, ‘the sacrifices’ and ‘a burden’, will slowly disappear and diminish.

 

          Next interesting topic to discuss about Love is ‘Sex’. Is ‘Sex’ asscociated with ‘Love’? and how ‘Sex’ relates to ‘making love’?

 

          In the creation of mother nature earth, all living things on earth has a shared vision and purpose, that is ‘to reproduce’ in order to keep the existence of mother earth as long as all the creatures on earth wanted to.

 

          Sex is the natural process (entire) of the Human Reproduction system. Somehow some wise man come along, and he made everyone confuse Sex with Making Love.

 

          I will leave the readers to reflect and ponder over what I am going to say about ‘Sex’ and ‘Making Love’ in the following sentences.

 

          ‘Sex’ is the natural way to fulfill our obligation on earth to provide balance and to sustain the existence of mother earth. Hence sex will lead to reproduction. Where making love is concerned, it is derived later by some wise man. To me, making love is about generating love, to create  sexual chemistry, excitement and fun to lure people to have ‘Sex’. Hence, making love itselves does not necessarily lead to ‘Sex’. And to some, ‘Sex’ not necessary must prelude with ‘Making love’.

 

          Another crude way to look at Sex and making love is that, if you use contraceptives, you are making love, if you don’t, you are having sex. But I think we can make love and have sex too, but you will have to wait for nine months to start the next cycle.

 

          Hence, if we know our fundamental in existence well we will enjoy life better.

 

          Finally, we may want to ask ourselve this question: ‘is being married with a ‘Certificate of Marriage’ a natural process or human created process?’.

 

          That explain why the large majority of people who are married live in misery….. lol