* lack of love – the wisdom from nature…

lack of love…

Many of our challenges and sufferings today are related to love, to be precise is due to the “lack of love”.

The cleaner dreads her day, feels ashamed, and lacks motivation and creativity to keep the place clean. She does not have the feeling and love for the place and for the people who are working or living there.  Consequently, she perceives, unconsciously, that a clean and tidy environment is not needed and that they do not deserve her efforts to keep the place clean. If she loves the place and the people who work and live there, she would have harnessed a lot of cosmos energy and creativities to find a better way to make the place clean and tidy. She would have found the noble meaning to serve those people whom she believes would benefit from her efforts.

inability to love…

Many of our complex emotional issues, disorders or illnesses today stems from our inability to love and to receive love, the real love. This inability is the result of our human behavioral evolution and domestication process that started a long time ago when our human society needed a system for all human-beings to survive, and to live together in a coherent manner – hence the birth of morality and legal systems.

birth of morality…

The moral and legal standards and definitions did not arise out of consciousness or love by the Pharisees, the puritans, the scribes or the pundits. Their definitions have arisen out of the legal court. Just like adultery, the meaning – the ordinary meaning – of which is “to make love to a woman you are not married to.” But the real meaning of adultery is “making love to someone whom you are not in love with. She may be your own wife, but if you are not in love with her, then making love to her is adultery.”[1]

Many of our moral teachings today are based on fear, but dressed in the cloth of love. When our parents told us to study hard, they have always reiterated that it is due to their love for us, of not wanting us to follow the same path that has led to their sufferings … was it out of fear or out of love…? When we got married, was it because we really loved that person and wanted to be with that person unconditionally, or was it because of our fear of losing that person, whom we perceived as capable of providing a shelter, the emotional needs and happiness for us…?

Having said all that, I would like to reiterate that it is not our parents’, teachers’ and relatives’ conscious intention to domesticate us in this manner, the manner that is driven by fear in the cloth of love.  It was just that no one has ever shown them how to love, and the meaning of real love.[2]

learning to love…

To really learn how to love and experience love, we must all “selfishly” learn to love ourselves and fill ourselves with all the loves that we deserve. Learn it from nature, because nature is still communicating in the language of love. Once we’ve understood “what is love” and the “feeling of love”, we can then go on to share our love with our parents, children, brothers and sisters, friends and the one we want to spend our life with. That is the real cycle of love.

Once we have experienced “real love”, we will experience life changing events, and we will feel peace and being showered with good energy from the cosmos universe. There will not be any guilt, jealousy or envy which are primarily responsible for creating those pains, hurts and sufferings that we are experiencing now. Though we may come across the occasional storm, and some emotional ripples later in our peaceful life, do not over-react, because it is just the way nature reminds us of the value of real love.

taken for a free ride…

As such, the notion of “taken for a free ride” will disappear, and we will feel at ease and feel blessed for being alive, everyday and the day ever after ….

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[1] Reference from “The ABC of Enlightment” by OSHO.

[2] Refer to my other article on “what is real love” for details…