Why we don’t get what we want?

Why most of us always experience set back in our life? Be it in work, relationship, business or even bringing up our kids etc.

The Law of Precession….

One of the main reasons is that we are quite ignorant of the Law of Precession.

The Law of Precession simply states that for every action we take there will be a side effect arising at 90 degree to the line of the our action.

I have extracted a part of the article from Stephanie Relfe to share with you here; hope that you could aware how the Law of Precession can influence the outcome of our action and change our destiny. For further reading, you can visit Stephanie Relfe @ www.relfe.com

The picture above shows what will happen when we drop a stone into the water. Ripples go out. The ripples are the side effect to the main action, which is the stone dropping into the water. And this ripples’ effect can be very large, as large as the Tsunami.

Another example is that the honey bees get up every morning, tirelessly flying from flower to flower to collect nectar to make honey for their living, but unknowingly the routine of these honey bees have a much more larger effect, that is pollinating the flowers, and enable the plant to reproduce, thus aiding in producing oxygen, food, eliminating global warming, and make life possible and comfortable for the entire living things on earth.

But do the Honey bees aware of this noble purpose? Chances are that they are not. Perhaps the ignorant of this profound purpose may have saved our planet earth.

Have you ever known of someone who just couldn’t stick to one line of work or action for long? The Law of Precession explains why this happens.

What happens when we get in the motion of action? The waves go out. Suddenly, off to the left and right the new opportunities appear.

So what do some people do? They get bored with what they’re doing, and go after the new things that they see. The trouble is, once they do that, the waves then go out again, to either side of their line of motion or action.

Again, they see new opportunities arise off to the side. Again they change direction.

This goes on forever

It’s not to say that this kind behavior is bad. It is good to experience many different things. But these people end up going around in circles. They never stick with any one thing long enough to become a MASTER at it. They don’t build up a network of contacts and a store of knowledge, expertise, wealth etc. to make as big a difference as they would have if they had stayed in roughly one direction for a longer period of time.

Now imagine the honey bees have changed their behavior, instead of tirelessly flying from flower to flower, because they realized that they could make more money out of the opportunities such as, producing oxygen, food etc, and decided to use that to control the plant or all the living things on earth. I am sure the earth would not be what it is today. Does this sound familiar to you?

“When money becomes the cause of what we do, we can easily compromise who we are and what we want to be. But if the money becomes the side effect of what we love to do, then we’re being true to ourselves” _{- John Kalench.}

What did Buckminster Fuller has to say?

Buckminster Fuller’s theory says that our job was not to make money. It was to add value to others. He believed that 70% of the jobs on earth were not directly contributing to the life-support of the people. Many are making money from money, or moving paper from one desk to another.

The key is balance. It is unbalanced to work only for money, and only for yourself and your family. It is also unbalanced to NOT work for yourself and your family, to work only for others.

While you are in your present job, work out how you can add value in your spare time. You are there for a reason.

I started doing things in the evenings and on the weekend. Eventually enough positive taps came into my life where I got a much better and higher paying job. And year’s later was able to work full time at what I loved to do.

“Find a Goal that Adds Value to others or to our planet earth, that you can commit to for at least 20 years….”

How can this apply to relationship?

Make your goal as doing something to add value to others or to our planet earth, and make your relationship as the side effect of your motion.

If you still feeling kind of lost, and do not know how to set that kind of goal that will add values to others or to our planet earth, I would suggest the following actionable.

1. Seek first to develop ourselves, before adding value to others.

· Always create room and capacity for ourselves and others to grow and expand unselfishly; and do not expect any return from others for our efforts.

· To encourage and be a source of motivation for each other to expand and be secured in our own worth.

· Accord appropriate and unconditional trust to others.

· Develop the ability to enjoy and be cofortable of being alone.

2. Understand all of us are made differently; we may have the same purpose in life, such as adding values to others or to our planet earth, but the paths and approaches in achieving it will be different; hence maintain our interest at heart while allowing others to pursue their interest.

Do not try to insist our values onto others, rather to be a brightly shining beacon that lights up their path ahead, so that they can clearly chose their own path and destiny, and be responsible for it.

3. Exercise caution when you are in “Power”. Don’t be too obssessed with being able to control. The only control we should be having is to be able to control our life. Believe in abudancy in life around us.

4. Learn to take action and make things happen; Don’t be afraid of failures, or problems. Understand that only through motion in action, we will have the side effects of happiness.

5. Learn to think simply and clearly. Have clarity of mind by practicing healthy self-talk by doing Zhineng Qigong, Meditation, Yoga, visiting spiritual places where positive energies are abundant.

6. Learn to self-support emotionally. Understand worldly material possessions are not forever. Learn to let go when possessions are not possible.

Travel light at all times, don’t carry too much baggage with us while in motion. It is very tiring and energy wasting if we have heavy baggage on our back while journeying through our life.

7. Understand that sex is free choice growing out of caring and friendship. Let it evolves naturally but be responsible of our action. Sex is not an avenue for contracting or trading loves, but rather the mutual enjoyment that enhance the relationship; the side effects of caring and enjoyable friendship. Another word, sex should never be our goal, but be the side effects.