Being mindful can enhance our sexual experiences and our sensuality.

 

I have extracted the following information from an article in Internet on “Mindfulness” to enhance our understanding and learning of this “age-old”, profound and alluring competency.

 

“When we are mindful, we are being still and aware of the present. This means not dwelling on our past or on our future, but bringing our attention to our present activity, whether that is driving, a conversation, cooking, working or watching TV.

 

Most people drift through life, spending much of their time lost in a swirl of speculation and judgments about their past and their future. Then they wonder why their life often seems to lack meaning and strength, but they fail to see that the real, vital connection to our life is through being present and mindful of what we are experiencing right now.

 

Sometimes I find myself bored or uninterested in many of the mundane activities of my daily life. Yet when I am willing to let go of my expectations and judgments and be wholeheartedly present, my heart often opens to the deep inherent meaning of whatever I am doing, and gratitude and reverence arise quite naturally.”

 

Mindfulness is more than just being aware of what we are doing; it is also an awareness of what we are thinking and feeling. Mindfulness allows me to be aware when my mind keeps turning down some well-worn karmic rut of worry or fear, inadequacy or pride. I can still spend untold hours, days, or even weeks criticizing myself or justifying myself, blaming myself or blaming others. Yet I never would think of making a conscious decision to spend all that time enveloped in self- criticism or blame. It seems like my thoughts and feelings are out of my control.

 

Sometimes I notice that my whole day has an undercurrent of worry flowing through it. Worry may be telling me that some aspect of my life needs attention, yet the activity of spending the whole day endlessly replaying my fears is a useless waste of my energy and causes me considerable pain.

 

Through the attention of being mindful, I can become aware of how much pain I am causing myself with my worrying. I then can also see that I have been choosing to worry and that I have a choice to let go of my worries and return my awareness to my present activity. Mindfulness allows me to see that I can choose to turn toward something positive like trust rather than worry, choose to forgive rather than blame, choose faith rather than doubt. If I feel despair, it is my choice if I allow myself to turn away from my faith and project a future without hope.”

 

The secret to enhance our sexuality and sensuality is being mindful when we are engaging in kissing, caressing, licking or even having a penetration.

 

Being mindful apart from what was written in the article above as we need to put aside of our worries, expectations, judgments, fear, inadequacy or pride, and more importantly, in our discussion here, is to focus a great deal of our attention on our 5 senses, and learn to explore the various part of her body and experience the experiences of the entire love making session.

 

As a beginner of being the “mindfulness” student in lover making, the following are my recommended pointers to work on when you embark on the new and wonderful journey in love making.

 

 

• Experiencing the smell of her neck, shoulder, armpit, and her vulva; a good hygienic bath is strongly recommended for those who are easily turn-off by the acute odor. A small drop of your partner’s favorite turn-on fragrant is highly recommended. A good preparation is worth half the success in love making journey.

   

• Experience the taste of her secretion and her body flesh; use of edible lubricant is highly recommended to enhance the extremely critical nature of our taste’s bud. Oral hygiene is important, do brush teeth and use oral spray before the session.

   

• Experience the feel of the softness and the wetness of her virginal through your tongue or your fingers; feel how her virginal wall wrap gently around your hard cock, and slowly unfolding your foreskin as you slide in and out of her moist virginal.

   

• Experience the sight of how her nipples, clit, labias and her entire vulva swell as responses to your foreplay; enjoy and connect your feeling to the sight of how her arms, fingers and her legs twitch as you lick and finger her;

   

• Experiencing her soft moan and rhythm it with your licking, fingering or your penetration.

   

Making love is such a wonderful experience for me, as to you I hope when you’re embarking on this “mindfulness’ in Love Making exploration journey. Remember, sexuality will enhance your sensuality, and enrich your soul in a long run.